Man’s Man
- What’s a man’s man?
- About self-confidence
- Integrity. Dying quality?
- Do you have kids, man?
- Doing when you don’t feel like doing
- A Gentleman’s Instruction Manual
INTRODUCTION TO A CLASSY MAN
"Seventy percent of success in life is showing up".
Woody Allen
You heard it before… stay classy!
What does it mean for a man? To me, it is one more definition of a man’s man. A classy man is the one who has all those qualities I have counted for man’s man earlier, and, in addition, who looks great.
You don’t have to be a Hollywood actor to look great. If you are dressed nicely and classily, if you are shaved clean or have a neat beard, and if you are well-groomed, you appear like a classy man.
Why do you want to be a classy man? Because you can get the classy woman! Because you can get more respect and more opportunities at work. People have become accustomed to forming their first impression based on how a person looks.
Do you know how classy women quickly “scan” a man and can identify him as worth dating? No, it is not the same way a man “scans” a woman. The first look would be at height and the face. The second one would be … you can’t even guess… the shoes! Believe it or not, the boots are an excellent indicator of your "classiness". If you wear heavy sneakers instead of shoes that fit your suit, you are far from being "classy". There is nothing wrong with sneakers, but avoid wearing them with a suit, especially if you're wearing a tie.
A classy man is also a gentleman. One fellow mentioned online that this is a dying breed of men. No wonder…
The boys are not taught to be gentlemen in the school; they have no example at home (with rare exceptions). Please let me know where you last saw the gentleman. In the James Bond movie? Instead of teaching our boys good manners, basic etiquette, and the “base” of the meaning of gentleman – someone they should have the desire to become – we introduce bad rap, vulgarity, craziness, wild parties, and the “f” word in almost every sentence. Just watch any movie. Just listen to any conversation of our millennials.
A gentleman is not just a “gentleman” who is polite to women and elderly people. It is a man who takes pride in his self-esteem and internal power. Gentlemen are projecting the “classy” image.
What could be wrong if you treat your lady right, hold the door open for her, manipulate the chair in the restaurant when you let her sit around the table, and offer your hand when she exits the car? What could be wrong if you keep yourself well-groomed with no hair sticking from your nose and ears, clean fingernails, dressed not in baggy clothes, and wearing clean and not cheap-looking shoes?
Behaving like a gentleman, you have already added several points to your lady’s estimate of you while you did nothing extraordinary. You get used to doing it. I began teaching my son the gentleman’s set of rules when he was barely 6 years old. In short, I can tell you, man: it paid off.
A classy man attracts the right women momentarily. You would see a few women flirting with him directly or indirectly (such as throwing glances that convey “I am interested” from another table in the restaurant). And it’s OK if he does not look like Kirk Douglas or Brad Pitt in their best years. Women can sense a classy man, especially classy women.
In this category, let’s discuss how to become a better man, more attractive to women, and how to look like a classy man. Let's discuss what it means to be a man and what makes you a true man's man. Your input will be greatly appreciated, as well as real-life stories.