Why is self-confidence so important?
I was mentioning self-confidence as one of the significant qualities of a man's man in several posts.
What does this term mean, and why is it so important?
Self-identity is the solid base that is built in your mind about your own personality and position/place in this world.
It is a state of your mind.
I just had a phone conversation with my son, who has expressed his frustration with his inability to invest in the stock market and get at least some gains. He has mentioned that those who run the market have an advantage over regular investors, which is why he is unsure whether he wants to continue, considering his losses.
Have you ever felt your confidence drain away? Or, perhaps, you have a quiet inner critic inside of you that tells you you’re not good enough? If your answer is “yes”, you should know that you are not alone. You are not alone, especially if you are challenging yourself to do something new or different, such as investing in the stock market or pursuing your dream of owning a business.
The quiet inner critic who kills your confidence is the one who prevents you from getting consistently excellent results, no matter what level of intelligence or skill you have. When it comes to getting the best results, confidence is an absolutely critical “must-have”.
I am very talkative in this blog, sharing my thoughts, but in the company of friends or occasional strangers, I am more observant and tend to be quiet.
What I enjoy doing is observing people's behavior and recognizing individuals. What is this person all about?
Does one have an inferiority complex? If yes, how does it project itself? Does that particular person have self-confidence? How can you recognize it?
When a man with self-confidence speaks, he does not raise his voice; he presents valid and well-thought-out arguments, refrains from interrupting another person's monologue, and projects assurance in his own brain power.
In contrast, the man with an inferiority complex will try to build a "smokescreen" that projects his imaginative mental power while hiding his weaknesses.
The list of weaknesses can be so long, man, you would be surprised!
It could be as simple as jealousy: a feeling of unhappiness and anger because someone has something or someone that you want but don't have.
A younger brother often feels that he is not as significant as his older sibling, as if they have a bigger house or a luxury car, but you hate that fact. For instance, someone can get any girl he wants, but you don't. It's like someone is making a ton of money, but you live from check to check.
How do people create the so-called "smokescreen"?
- By trying to be in the center of attention to hide one's own insignificance;
- By raising a voice during arguments;
- By interrupting the conversation of other people and inserting their own comments, so the attention is switched to his persona.
- By telling hard-to-believe stories about himself and lying about his own success, which is probably impossible to verify;
- By trying to look and behave like "macho," that is so obvious to everyone. Real machismo doesn't need to be displayed. For him, it is a way of life.
Very often, if you see someone who is behaving like a jerk, you know what I am talking about: the “smokescreen” and the lack of self-respect.
Do you recognize any of the described above behavior in yourself? If the answer is yes, you should take this fact seriously and consider carefully how to address it.
- If you have no confidence because of your health problems or your physical condition, it is time to make a drastic change in your lifestyle. Learn as much as possible about it, and make the changes. Pump the iron, eat healthier, and don’t drink alcohol. You owe it to yourself!
- If you have no confidence because of fear of negative results, you should know that those who have achieved excellent results in various life ventures were afraid too, but, despite it, they let themselves have room for error. It did not stop them. It gave them more power and persistence to try harder. Can you imagine what they felt when they finally succeeded?
- If you have difficulties with dating girls or women due to a lack of confidence, you should know that knowledge is power. Learn about body language, dating tips, and a proper approach that works, and try it out by leaving the room to receive feedback on your successes and failures. Analyze them, and try not to repeat them. Be persistent!
- Again, if you are lacking something, spend time and learn how to get it. It is how men build confidence. Nothing in this world is given for free - you have to apply effort, be persistent, don't give up when meeting a barrier, and most importantly, HAVE faith in yourself.
You can become a man's man IF you want. Take, at least, a little step every day toward your goal, and, believe me, you will be surprised! Young guys often feel depressed because they are trying to find their place and purpose in this world, and still have no self-confidence. Unfortunately, many men in their late thirties or even forties still feel the same way. Do not waste your lifetime on garbage. Define your goals and work hard to achieve a positive outcome. Nobody is responsible for your own mistakes and wrong choices.
Start it today. Start it now!
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